10 Things Every Mother of the Bride Should Know

Written by Nicole Garrity on . Posted in Fashion, Life, Shopping in Buffalo, Uncategorized, Wedding

With summer in full force, weddings are happening everywhere!  Here are 10 things to remember on your daughter’s wedding day to keep the whole experience magical!   fc5d707bde998aad079e8512aee53b42 (1)

  1. This is your daughters day to shine. Not yours! That doesn’t mean you can’t look fabulous, but remember to just dress age appropriate. You are playing a crucial role on the day, but your daughter is the star. Even if you dislike certain details, keep it to yourself! Remember: compliments and smiles.
  2. It is inappropriate to wear white. Mothers of the bride, do not even think about wearing a color in/near/around the whites on your daughter’s special day. She is the princess in white and no one should be close to her wedding gown color on the day.
  3. The Bride and Groom are running the show. Some mothers tend to be a little controlling and/or overbearing but on the wedding day, mothers need to know who are in charge. The bride and groom are the gatekeepers of all final decisions leading up to the wedding and throughout the day. Unless you have been asked to run something, stay out of the way.
  4. Learn how to pick and choose your battles wisely. Some traditions are nearer and dearer to your heart than your daughters. So if there is something you must see or do on the wedding day, pick ONE that is a must. It will be seen with more importance and your daughter can’t say no to your one request, right? Just like the bride has to pick and choose her battles, so should you.
  5. Get to know the in-laws. This is your daughter’s new family and in this day and age, the mother of the groom may be just as involved as the bride’s mother (or would like to be) when it comes to planning the big day. Especially when budgets are getting split. Brides, make sure both mother’s feel included! How about a launch date for the ladies to discuss the wedding details?
  6. Be supportive, no matter what. Even if your daughter is turning into bridezilla (which they sometimes do), mothers need to stay poised, calm, and collected. It is your job to be the pillar of stability during this crazy time and your daughter will want someone who can both help them make the big decisions and keep their cool when things go crazy. We can’t promise it will be easy, but please try for the bride!
  7. Offer to help, but only what you are truly willing to do. You should only offer what you WANT and CAN do. If you have a full-time job, maybe volunteering to meet with florists mid-week is a bad idea. Maybe if you have a special talent in table decorations or paper goods, offer to lend a hand there. Don’t offer your help on items that you have no interest in! And certainly don’t fill your schedule with more than you can handle. We know you want to be involved, just do it wisely.
  8. Be open about the guest list. We know tradition states that mom and dad are hosting the party (i.e paying for it) and therefore, the guest list should be decided by them. Not anymore. For this generation, the bride and groom are normally the ones in control of the almighty guest list.
  9. Offer your wedding gown, but don’t force it. We know you may have been saving your wedding dress for your daughter, but styles and fashions have evolved. You should definitely make the offer, but please don’t be offended if the bride says no. Maybe offer the veil? Or perhaps a piece of the dress can be used, like the lace? Seamstresses and tailors can do wonders with old dresses. Be open-minded!
  10. Discuss wedding outfits with the mother of the groom. This may seem trivial, but having the mothers coordinate is a wonderful bonding experience. Plus, it is tradition to share your look for the wedding. Also, as the head of matrons, your look will set the tone for the wedding!

  • PROM IS NOT CANCELLED! In fact as we're speaking right now, there are already a number of parents in the community setting up private proms for a later date. We could really use your help as well in coordinating this private event for your children and their class.

    If each school can get 10 parents to start on their side I believe we can accomplish our goal of making sure everyone still has a prom this year. In order to keep costs low, it's time to try and bring the proms back to the school gyms as hosts. It may be difficult to convince the schools right now, but as this movement I'm going to call #PROMFOREVER gains traction, In the end it may break down into a few mini proms for a school instead of 1 big one as parents decide to host in their homes if they can't get the schools on board.

    This is going to take some work but we have the time to do it now. #PROMFOREVER. We need to get involved in the community! the limo companies, floral companies, live entertainment companies etc... Anyone who is normally involved in prom and would be affected if there was no prom.

    Many of you are thinking to yourself while reading this, yeah fat chance, you're a dreamer! But seriously THIS CAN HAPPEN. the question is are you going to be a part of it, or are you going to remain complacent and watch and see what others can do for you.

    One of the greatest joys I have in life and why I love this business so much is because I can have a thought transition into reality. I want you to enjoy this same feeling when this nonsense is all over. Not only are you going to save PROM but you are going to give so many young Americans the RIGHT THEY HAVE EARNED to experience this right of passage. This is an important step these young men and women need to take into the next stage of their lives.

    This is not a special time in human history. We have fought disease before and we will fight it again. It is through the resilience of our species that we overcome what is thought to be impossible.

    We are the Impossible
    We are Fighters
    We are Winners

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