10 Things Every Mother of the Bride Should Know

Written by Nicole Garrity on . Posted in Fashion, Life, Shopping in Buffalo, Uncategorized, Wedding

With summer in full force, weddings are happening everywhere!  Here are 10 things to remember on your daughter’s wedding day to keep the whole experience magical!   fc5d707bde998aad079e8512aee53b42 (1)

  1. This is your daughters day to shine. Not yours! That doesn’t mean you can’t look fabulous, but remember to just dress age appropriate. You are playing a crucial role on the day, but your daughter is the star. Even if you dislike certain details, keep it to yourself! Remember: compliments and smiles.
  2. It is inappropriate to wear white. Mothers of the bride, do not even think about wearing a color in/near/around the whites on your daughter’s special day. She is the princess in white and no one should be close to her wedding gown color on the day.
  3. The Bride and Groom are running the show. Some mothers tend to be a little controlling and/or overbearing but on the wedding day, mothers need to know who are in charge. The bride and groom are the gatekeepers of all final decisions leading up to the wedding and throughout the day. Unless you have been asked to run something, stay out of the way.
  4. Learn how to pick and choose your battles wisely. Some traditions are nearer and dearer to your heart than your daughters. So if there is something you must see or do on the wedding day, pick ONE that is a must. It will be seen with more importance and your daughter can’t say no to your one request, right? Just like the bride has to pick and choose her battles, so should you.
  5. Get to know the in-laws. This is your daughter’s new family and in this day and age, the mother of the groom may be just as involved as the bride’s mother (or would like to be) when it comes to planning the big day. Especially when budgets are getting split. Brides, make sure both mother’s feel included! How about a launch date for the ladies to discuss the wedding details?
  6. Be supportive, no matter what. Even if your daughter is turning into bridezilla (which they sometimes do), mothers need to stay poised, calm, and collected. It is your job to be the pillar of stability during this crazy time and your daughter will want someone who can both help them make the big decisions and keep their cool when things go crazy. We can’t promise it will be easy, but please try for the bride!
  7. Offer to help, but only what you are truly willing to do. You should only offer what you WANT and CAN do. If you have a full-time job, maybe volunteering to meet with florists mid-week is a bad idea. Maybe if you have a special talent in table decorations or paper goods, offer to lend a hand there. Don’t offer your help on items that you have no interest in! And certainly don’t fill your schedule with more than you can handle. We know you want to be involved, just do it wisely.
  8. Be open about the guest list. We know tradition states that mom and dad are hosting the party (i.e paying for it) and therefore, the guest list should be decided by them. Not anymore. For this generation, the bride and groom are normally the ones in control of the almighty guest list.
  9. Offer your wedding gown, but don’t force it. We know you may have been saving your wedding dress for your daughter, but styles and fashions have evolved. You should definitely make the offer, but please don’t be offended if the bride says no. Maybe offer the veil? Or perhaps a piece of the dress can be used, like the lace? Seamstresses and tailors can do wonders with old dresses. Be open-minded!
  10. Discuss wedding outfits with the mother of the groom. This may seem trivial, but having the mothers coordinate is a wonderful bonding experience. Plus, it is tradition to share your look for the wedding. Also, as the head of matrons, your look will set the tone for the wedding!